What I Didn’t Know I Needed to Hear

 something about the words “I’m proud of you” that hits different—especially when you didn’t even know you needed to hear them.

 

Today, I was celebrating the launch of my new website. It’s something I’ve worked toward for a long time. People have congratulated me. They’ve said they love what I’m doing. I’ve felt supported and celebrated—and I’m so grateful.

 

But when my friend REL said, “I’m proud of you,” I cried.

 

And not just a tear or two. I broke down. Because that hit a part of me I didn’t even realize was waiting to be seen.

 

Here’s the thing: I knew people supported me. I knew they were happy for me. But nobody had said they were proud of me—and I didn’t know how much I needed that until the words met me right where I was.

 

It made me reflect on how we treat the idea of validation. Somewhere along the way, we were taught that needing affirmation is weak. That craving acknowledgment means you’re needy or self-absorbed. But the truth is, human beings are wired for connection. And a part of that connection is being seen —not just in our struggles, but in our growth.

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with desiring validation. A healthy desire to be affirmed isn’t about ego—it’s about being reminded that your efforts matter. That you’re not moving through life unseen. That someone noticed your resilience, your courage, your progress—and felt it was worth saying something about.

 

Now, sure—if your whole identity hinges on constant applause, that’s something to work through. But the occasional “You’re doing great,” or “I’m proud of you”? That’s not too much to want. That’s human.

 

So today, I’m saying it to you: I’m proud of you. For showing up.

For pushing forward.

For holding it together when everything tried to pull you apart.

For not quitting.

For doing the work—both the visible and invisible kind.

 

        Let those words settle. Let them soften the parts of you that felt unseen. You’re not selfish for needing that. You’re human. And if you needed to hear it today… so did I.  Challenge of the Week: Tell someone you’re proud of them—genuinely. Whether it’s a friend, coworker, partner, or sibling… say the words. You never know how deeply they might need to hear it. Question to Ponder: When was the last time someone told you they were proud of you—and how did it make you feel? Want to learn more about what I do and why I do it? Visit my new website: https://sight-beyond-vision.com #SightBeyondVision #FuelAndFlourish #EncouragementMatters #ProudOfYou #HealingWords #UnapologeticallyBecoming